You have so many dreams and desires to reach and achieve but you never get to where we want to go because you lack confidence.
Ask yourself these two questions:
- Why am I existing?
- What do I want out of life?
If your why and what are strong, you will eventually grow to support and achieve these why and what’s. If they are weak, you will not get where you want to go.
Confidence crushes all that oppose it and gets you to your goals. Nothing limits confidence accept fear.
Fear destroys confidence. Fear crushes confidence and it will turn you inside out.
If you masteryour fear, you’ll master your confidence. Once you master your fear, your confidence will be eternally strong. So the real question is how do you master your fear?
Steps to Confidence: Mastering Social Fear
1. Put Yourself out there
One of the biggest mistakes that I see with guys is that they are hiding behind their group of friends. There are two people in life. The leaders and the followers. If you’re down to be a follower, go for it and hide behind the crowd. That’s totally fine.
And leaders, you are the people with the potential to change the world.
Notice I did not say people who will change the world because that is up to you.
Leaders will go out there and talk to new people. Leaders will make new friends. Leaders will join new groups, and leaders will start new trends.
Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way. — General George Patton
2. Go in Strong
One thing that you can notice about the hero in any movie, show, or pretty much anything is that their entrance is pretty much always incredible as hell.
What you probably share in common with the other 99.9% of guys is the desire to be the hero. The main character of the story and I get that, I mean who doesn’t?
The secret to winning a group of friends is going in with a hella lot of dominance and the secret to doing this is not so secret as it may seem.
- Hold your head up high
- Walk with a stride and pick up the pace
- Start out the convo with a bang
“Yooooo, whats good guys?” “Ayy, whats happening?” “Dillon *bro high-five* great to see you”
These 3 tips are the secrets to starting the game as alpha and remember, if you don’t win over the pack, don’t worry because the world is a big place. Keep practicing and you’ll find the homeboys in no time.
3. Act Like a Rapper
This one probably will throw you off because it is quite different from the other ones. I can vouch for this tactic because it has allowed me to give bombshell public speeches and debates that get standing ovations.
Why a rapper?
While you may not think rapper at first, rappers are one of the most confident looking people. Just look at how they act on stage. That is the exact type of confidence and openness you want in your everyday life.
Rappers are relaxed, always looking fire as hell, and don’t give a crap about anything. Is this a bad role model? Yeah, it is. It is also an incredibly dense amount of confidence that you’re gonna want to have.
Don’t lay these steps off and procrastinate or you will never get anywhere. In fact, we actually have a post dedicated to stopping your procrastination once and for all so go check it out.
Confidence is a hard thing that takes skill to build and courage to start. When it comes down to it, confidence is all about conquering your fear which I totally believe you are capable of doing because you sought help on the problem in the first place.
Keep it up because you are amazing.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAWGqynU2sc